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ETIQUETTE

MRS
CHAUHAN

CONFLICTED HEART
Dear Mrs Chauhan,
I am 21 years old and I am about to complete my bachelor’s degree abroad.
I desire to stay in the U.S. afterwards to pursue my professional work, and I
know my family won’t be happy with this decision because they are urging
me to come back to Bangkok after university ends. I know I will benefit more
working overseas, but I also know that I will miss my family once I leave.
Travelling back and forth is not an option because of how expensive flights can
be. I am conflicted and I don’t know who to please. In my heart, I want to go.
What do I do?
Dear Conflicted Heart,
It’s not going to be possible to please everyone.
So it’s best if you think about yourself first and
foremost. Your family will always be there for
you, and they will always want what is best
for you. So if your decision is to leave, they
will support you no matter what. Once they
see how happy and settled you are working
overseas, they will eventually be happy for you.
My suggestion is; before you break the news to
them, find a job first and then tell them of this
great opportunity. It will be harder for them to
convince you to stay back when you have a valid
reason for going away.

EAGER ONE
Dear Mrs Chauhan,
I am stuck in an office job and it’s really boring. I need the money, but if I
am being honest with myself, I’m just not happy here. I would rather be in
consulting, working with people and helping out with projects, but I don’t
know how to get into the field. I also want to be able to make a difference in
this world, so I was thinking about law school, but it’s going to take a while A special milestone deserves
to finish my degree. I was also thinking about doing freelance photography or
journalism in the meantime. I just don’t know what to do!
endless celebration. Raise your
Dear Eager One, glass and celebrate our 20 years
You have many passions, and that is
wonderful because you know there is more
out there for you than the job you currently anniversarywith us this september.
have. Also don’t neglect your office job
entirely, as this job has probably taught you a Stop by any of our award-winning
variety of skills that can be a stepping stone
into your next career move. It’s important restaurants and enjoy many
to reflect on what you really want to do. It’s
impossible to be a lawyer, consultant and festivities that are in store.
journalist. So before making a serious career
switch, make a carefully thought out decision!

OLD LOVER
Dear Mrs Chauhan,
I have been married for 10 years, but my husband and I have had it rough these
last couple of years. It’s been bothering me that our interests have drifted.
We’re two completely different people than we were when we met and I think
it’s hurting our relationship. We have kids so it’s not like I can just get up and
leave. I want to work it out but I can’t seem to find a way to return to being the
couple we used to be.

Dear Old Lover,
Maybe it’s no longer about going back to the couple you used to be, but
moving forward as the couple you are today. Time can change people for the
good and the bad, and you two have vowed to
stay true through it all. So don’t give up
so easily and try to step forward in your
relationship. Maybe go on a vacation
together to reconnect away from your
children. Or if a trip isn’t possible, go on
a romantic date. Spend time together
to try to understand each other, and
rekindle the spark.

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